Well, I had just gotten off of a phone call with a male and female friend of mine. The conversation was about being "Thirsty" or not. He's married. She is single, and I am as well. Well, it was an interesting convo.
When we got off the phone, I logged in to Facebook, and the first post I saw was the one pictured: "Why do men think an attractive lady has a mate or men lined up? Do you guys think that's another reason why so many people are single?
I think so many people are single because of this new word, THIRSTY! For some reason, you're not supposed to want or express genuine interest in desiring to have a happy and fulfilling relationship. You can desire success, money, better health, new house, car, better job, child support, seeing your kids, a break from your job, and tell everybody to pray for you about all of that. Butttttttttttt, if you say, I am really looking for a good husband/wife in the near future and praying God sends me a good mate, YOU'RE THIRSTY! And are told, oh just let it happen. Everything else, we're told to pursue except a relationship. We're supposed to let that happen. Lol...really? Ok....
I would say that that's been the biggest shift in relationships I've seen over the last 8 years of working in the relationship industry.
The other thing, I've seen is this idea that people are as replaceable as a roll of toilet paper or underwear and therfore have no REAL value to each other in a relationship; men/women. This leads to a lack of compassion and a lack of passion in our interactions, quest, and/or wait for true connection and love.
So, because women are the bearers of love and aren't loving men for being men, AND the men are carriers of protection and are not protecting the women, there's no TRUST. Is very hard to LOVE without TRUST.
In general, Men marry women they can TRUST, and not just women they can trust, but women with whom they can trust with their heart. On the other hand, women marry men who make them feel SECURE, and depending on the woman the definition of SECURE is different. So, again, somebody has to make a move, and in turn, something has to be reciprocated that the move being made is okay, appreciated, and desired. Otherwise, we'll see less and less men and/or women making/responding accordingly to any moves! AND therefore, more and more SINGLE, yet attractive women and men.
Everybody has been told to WAIT. If you don't, YOU'RE THIRSTY. Don't call her. Don't text him. Don't respond back yet. Etc. ,etc. ,etc. How silly does all this sound? Why let folks know that I'm single, available, ready for a healthy loving relationship, not a whore/jiggalo, and don't have all these options lined up contrary to some folks idea of me? Why? Because anything else would be uncivilized, and is keeping many beautiful women and good men single, who actually desire the same thing, but are more concerned about looking THIRSTY!
By Armani Valentino
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