Many times in our mundane and sometimes not-so exciting lives, we tend to want CHANGE. Even when we look at the campaign that was used by the now President, Barack Obama, we remember the slogan, "A Change We Can Believe In."
Again I say, change doesn't always mean progress. As a matter of fact, in most cases it doesn't equal progress, it actually takes us into a state of regress, but we perceive not..
Many relationships that most individuals leave, are usually because they want change. Then when they CHANGE relationships and/or partners what they realixe is that although there was change, there wasn't really any progress. Or if there is progress it seems to only last for a brief period in the new relationship.
As opposed to changing relationships in most cases in order to achieve progress, I would advise changing yourself within the relationship and progress will follow. Most of the time, we are wanting the other person to change or wanting to change the other person. If this doesn't work, we want to change to...another person. Again, all of this is exterior change, which rarely produces progress. In our minds it may, but even that change is short lived.
So, after doing this for year after year, relationship after relationship, we realize or should I say some of us realize that we just may be the problem, the common denominator. Those that don't realize this usually quit and give up on relationships or whatever goal or discipline it is that they aren't making progress in.
So, again,"There is no PROGRESS without CHANGE, but there can be CHANGE without PROGRESS! Pray you're not mistaking CHANGE for PROGRESS!" If you want more progress, you have to change yourself and progress will follow.