My thoughts and words from a RECENT CONVO with a female friend(s) seeking advice:
The men y'all pass over repeatedly, the good ones you had but treated like ish, but swear up and down "Ain't no good men," and you still waiting on "The One." Lol lol lol lol... Smh... But believe GOD is supposed to just keep blessing you so you can keep killing a man's dreams & spirit, and take him from his purpose.
Do YOU KNOW YOUR PURPOSE in a MAN'S Life? Do you know what you're supposed to bring to a MAN? You sure you serving GOD or just going to church/mosque/temple, etc.? Are you really listening to the sermons? Are You really reading the scriptures, for real? Not having sex don't make you saved!!! What does your heart look like?
Some of y'all will leave a sermon, cry, fall out, then go cuss out your man, children, momma, friends, etc. But....You're saved? Saved from what? Seems like the folks around you need to be saved from you and all that evil spirited emotion you constantly spew. Some of y'all just walk around looking mad and sad, ALL THE TIME! Like ALL THE TIME! Just done made up your own Gospel on how to treat people!!! Lol... Ok.....smh.... NEVER TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for HOW BADLY YOU treated or treat somebody. NEVER!!!! It's ALWAYS somebody else's fault. But of course that's unpopular to say.
Remember in the Color Purple when Sealy said, "Until you do right by me, everything you THINK of is gonna FAIL." Truth is, Some of you will NEVER be happy in ANY relationship because there are some FOLKS you did terribly wrong and to this DAY you STILL have not done as the BIBLE & all religious scriptures says to do, and CONFESSED YOUR FAULTS, ASKED FOR FORGIVENESS and even made an effort to RECONCILE YOUR WRONGS! WHY? Too much E.G.O. (Edging God Out)!!! Well he's the man or what about what he did to me. What about it? Man or woman, if you did wrong and you know you did, YOU go APOLOGIZE. YOU MAKE THE EFFORT! Some of you have totally messed up your future, your children's future, your long term happiness, and MISSED "The ONE" on so many occasions that ain't no more 1's left for you! You gotta deal with 2's, 3's, 4's and 5's and whatever is left over because your heart ain't right and God refuses to give you another good man just so you can keep destroying lives like the Proverbs 7 woman. But swear up and down you're a Proverbs 31 Woman. Ok... I hear you. Then have the nerve to say, "I need somebody who can deal with me." Really? You can't even deal with yourself!!! How is somebody supposed to deal with you when you haven't TRULY DEALT with YOU? Huh....????
"Well, I'm waiting on my Boaz!" My sister, "I love you, but truth is, YOU AIN'T no RUTH!"
Of course there was silence for a second, and all she could say was, "You're right! Mr. Valentino. You're right!" I smiled.
Until next time....