Ladies, have you ever said to yourself, I Know My Worth? Most women do this at some point in life. However, do you know the difference between worth and value?
If you have ever found yourself saying "I KNOW MY WORTH," understand the following please: WORTH and VALUE are two different things. Worth is determined by YOU. VALUE is determined by the marketplace or what the market can afford. In a buyer's market, the buyer has more leverage on determining the actual value versus the perceived value. In a seller's market the seller has more leverage in determining value. As a single black man in America, I have to say it, IT'S still a buyer's market. Many women have WORTH mixed up with VALUE. I understand what you feel about your worth my sister, but let's take a closer look at why your VALUATION in the marketplace is not coming up near your personal listing price that you say you're WORTH. I'll use real estate to further paint my picture. 1.) Number of owners/renters/partners (1 or 2 owner home or has it been a rental with multiple short-term leases). I think this is self-explanatory! 2.) Appearance - Have there been any updates? Well maintained? Does it look livable and appealing? Also, is the outer appearance congruent with the inner workings of the home (heart & mind). Is the home in good structural health? Foundation? Electric? Plumbing? 3.) How long has the home (You) been available on the market? The question gets asked because someone is thinking, 'why is this lovely woman/home still on the market?' 4.) Number of utilities & expenses? As a landlord, one of the main questions I get is, "What are all the bills I have to pay; lights, water, gas, trash, sewer, lawn service, etc.?" It's the same way when it comes to a man who is looking for a mate. What all am I going to have to pay for and deal with in order to maintain this relationship? Is it in my budget? Number of Children, car notes, phone bills, etc. 5.) Location or community. This equates to the other nuances that come along with a community or individual. When entering into a relationship both parties bring with them, their past experiences, problems, mental and physical insecurities, health, family, friends, habits, etc. Many times, until you actually move in the neighborhood and stay for a little while, you don't know the real potential issues, of all kinds, that you may have to deal with. Location and community are both determining factors in the valuation of the property; whether it's for sale or rent. It's the same when it comes to relationships. 6.) What do you offer that's not readily available elsewhere? There are many intangibles within certain homes that must be communicated in order for the ready and available buyers/(men) in the marketplace to put in real offers, and are in a position to move forward. Otherwise, the home will stay on the market. Not only will a potential buyer not see your true value, but he won't even be able to know your worth! To sum it all up, know that while YOU may know your WORTH, until some changes and adjustments are made, if you're wanting a certain kind of renter or buyer, you're going to have to increase your VALUE in the marketplace, and be able to somehow communicate why YOU! And in order to do this you may have to have a few showings and open houses, then accept some applications. 😊😘 Until next time! Figure out your value in the marketplace, instead of shouting "I KNOW MY WORTH!" Because even if you do, as a man, I don't. And therefore, can only offer what I have or what comparable homes in the marketplace are on the marketplace for at the same time. #claimtheincrease #seeyouatthetop #dontletnobodykillyourdreams #staypositive #keepthefaith PS - One of my most important books, This Is Why I Won't Marry You deals in detail, the top reasons why men and women choose NOT to marry certain individuals. It's some of my best work and took 5.5 years to compile. You can purchase it here!
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February 15, 2016 Dallas, TX ---As the new week began on President’s Day 2016, many individuals didn’t have to go to work on today, and children didn’t have to go to school. Therefore, many spouses, fiancées, and significant others either got it right on this past Valentine’s Day or they totally missed it, again. Depending on how well the Lover’s weekend went for them, their Monday was probably in direct correlation to their weekend. They were either basking in joy or stressing about the discontent of their lover. Either way, they had their opportunity to at least get it right. Then, there’s another group of individuals; no matter how much they wanted to get it right and maybe even impress the object of their affection they had no one with whom they could enjoy Valentine's 2016. They were willing to buy the flowers, cards, candy, dinner, movie, engagement ring, or sit at home and #netflixcandchill; but they had no one with whom they could give or receive love this Valentine’s 2016. With all the dating options today, or seemingly abundant choices to choose from when it comes to finding love, many individuals still struggle to attract a suitable date for Valentine's Day, every year. I realized this when I woke up this morning and signed into my social media accounts. #Singleandlovingit #teamsingle #treatingmyself #stillsingle #nodate And many other hashtags centered around the lack of love or someone with whom to share Valentine's Day. On one hand, there were individuals who were excited about Valentine’s Day festivities; and just as many who were kind of sour or trying to act as if they weren’t so sad about not having someone with whom they could share Valentine’s Day weekend. The 5 people who more than likely have the Valentine’s Blues worst than you… 1.) The Man, who bought the ring for the woman of his dreams, planned everything out, only to be told, “No!” 2.) The Lady, who had finally let her walls down enough to go on a date with a man, went and got her hair done, bought a nice dress, shoes, etc., maybe even paid for a babysitter, only to end up being stood up by this guy who had no real intentions with her in the first place. 3.) The child or young person who got their heart broken over the weekend for the first time. 4.) The person spending their first Valentine’s alone without their lover who may have passed within the last 12 months. 5.) The person who doesn’t believe in love, at all. And therefore, is negative about any and everyone else enjoying and/or pursuing love. I am all about individuals loving one another and being in love. Therefore, I encourage you to be LOVE’S EXPRESSION, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day. This within itself will help you to be able to appreciate whatever you receive and look forward to giving love, daily. I Otherwise, every year, you’ll end up having the After Valentine’s Day Blues. Until next time… ©2016. Armani Valentino. All rights reserved. My TOP Books on Relationships:
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