Relationship Advice of the Day : YOUR PASTOR IS NOT YOUR MAN
Sadly, over the years, I've learned that a lot of women are SECRETLY IN LOVE with their pastor. Why? Because they LISTEN to him, but don't listen to their man. They sit their, ACTIVELY LISTENING and are taught for a few hours a week by the pastor. Imagine if you did the same for your man? A man is supposed to GUIDE & GOVERN you, but he can't do that if you don't listen to him. Truth be told many women don't listen to their man for multiple hours each week. They trust what the pastor is saying is TRUE because they keep hearing him out, fully explain himself with no interruption, week after week!
Many churches have a much larger attendance/membership of women than men. The women give money to fund the pastor's vision, but often speak negatively or down talk their own husband or another man who is supporting them the best way they know how. This is why it's difficult for most men to see their woman go to church, listen to another man excite their woman have them crying and shouting in the aisles, and then get home and talk/act about as cold, ungodly, and mean as they can to the same man they made a commitment to love, honor, respect and support. It's very confusing and often turns men off from attending church with their wife, fiancé, or girlfriend for any other reason than to keep the peace.
Everything you're helping your pastor build will not be passed on to you or your children, unless your pastor is also your husband NOT THE HUSBAND IN YOUR MIND, but your actual husband).
Commitment to your HUSBAND or husband-to-be & his vision should be first. Church IS NOT God, and neither is your pastor! Your husband is to be Lord over you and the household, EVEN IF he be not a believer. Imagine if healthy marriages were totally encouraged in churches where the women far outweighed the men?
If this was taught, most churches would instantly double in size because men could come to church knowing that the pastor was teaching the woman and man their proper roles to be successful in the first ministry, marriage. Plus, the single men would be more inclined to marry because they would see the benefits of it.
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