Relationship Advice of the Day : YOUR PASTOR IS NOT YOUR MANRelationship Advice of the Day: YOUR PASTOR IS NOT YOUR MAN! It's hard to respect a woman who'll support her pastor's goals, dreams, and vision, but won't support her husband's or fiancé's (husband to be) goals, dreams, aspirations and/or vision. Your pastor should never come before your man.
Sadly, over the years, I've learned that a lot of women are SECRETLY IN LOVE with their pastor. Why? Because they LISTEN to him, but don't listen to their man. They sit their, ACTIVELY LISTENING and are taught for a few hours a week by the pastor. Imagine if you did the same for your man? A man is supposed to GUIDE & GOVERN you, but he can't do that if you don't listen to him. Truth be told many women don't listen to their man for multiple hours each week. They trust what the pastor is saying is TRUE because they keep hearing him out, fully explain himself with no interruption, week after week! Many churches have a much larger attendance/membership of women than men. The women give money to fund the pastor's vision, but often speak negatively or down talk their own husband or another man who is supporting them the best way they know how. This is why it's difficult for most men to see their woman go to church, listen to another man excite their woman have them crying and shouting in the aisles, and then get home and talk/act about as cold, ungodly, and mean as they can to the same man they made a commitment to love, honor, respect and support. It's very confusing and often turns men off from attending church with their wife, fiancé, or girlfriend for any other reason than to keep the peace. Everything you're helping your pastor build will not be passed on to you or your children, unless your pastor is also your husband NOT THE HUSBAND IN YOUR MIND, but your actual husband). Commitment to your HUSBAND or husband-to-be & his vision should be first. Church IS NOT God, and neither is your pastor! Your husband is to be Lord over you and the household, EVEN IF he be not a believer. Imagine if healthy marriages were totally encouraged in churches where the women far outweighed the men? If this was taught, most churches would instantly double in size because men could come to church knowing that the pastor was teaching the woman and man their proper roles to be successful in the first ministry, marriage. Plus, the single men would be more inclined to marry because they would see the benefits of it. www.ArmaniValentino.com --- be sure to check out my book #THISISWHYIWONTMARRYU
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Jo Ann Brown
7/21/2016 06:15:51 am
Some is truth some is not. Still got to get it for ourselves. An individual thing. Some of these men of ours don't have an understanding either.I certainly don't want my pastor.Yes they are our spiritual leaders and at times it does our heart good to discuss a matter of importance.I guarantee u that a lot of marriages have been saved through talking with some of these pastors to.
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9/3/2016 03:43:08 pm
Aunt Jo Ann,
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Jeffrey Strader
1/8/2021 08:37:48 am
As a Pastor, it is our willing job to council those in need with Gods word. As a woman/wife/girlfriend it is your job to know the difference between of when you should go to your pastor and when you should talk with your husband. The husband is to be the Protector/Lover/Help-meet/Friend and Biblical teacher. Lack of communication is as deadly to a marriage/relation as adultery. Anytime you place another man before/between you and your husband (for any reason) you are committing adultery. God created the man and gave him his role in life just as God created the woman and gave her, her role in life. It is a rebellious spirit that believes in anything other than Gods word, His truth.
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Jeffrey Strader
1/8/2021 08:31:41 am
What you speak is the absolute truth. Many modern day women (WOMENS LIB) have shunned away from God and their role as a true woman, in favor of the new self created image. They want to argue that God never segregated the genders and that whats good for the goose is also good for the gander. Nothing is farther from the truth. God specifically set man into his role and woman into her role in life. It's a rebellious spirit that keeps a woman from her role in the eyes of God. Man was created in the image of God, where as woman was created in the image of MAN as his HELP MEET. Turning from their first love they seek fleshly equality, not knowing that they already have it.
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