Relationship Advice of the Day : YOUR PASTOR IS NOT YOUR MANRelationship Advice of the Day: YOUR PASTOR IS NOT YOUR MAN! It's hard to respect a woman who'll support her pastor's goals, dreams, and vision, but won't support her husband's or fiancé's (husband to be) goals, dreams, aspirations and/or vision. Your pastor should never come before your man.
Sadly, over the years, I've learned that a lot of women are SECRETLY IN LOVE with their pastor. Why? Because they LISTEN to him, but don't listen to their man. They sit their, ACTIVELY LISTENING and are taught for a few hours a week by the pastor. Imagine if you did the same for your man? A man is supposed to GUIDE & GOVERN you, but he can't do that if you don't listen to him. Truth be told many women don't listen to their man for multiple hours each week. They trust what the pastor is saying is TRUE because they keep hearing him out, fully explain himself with no interruption, week after week! Many churches have a much larger attendance/membership of women than men. The women give money to fund the pastor's vision, but often speak negatively or down talk their own husband or another man who is supporting them the best way they know how. This is why it's difficult for most men to see their woman go to church, listen to another man excite their woman have them crying and shouting in the aisles, and then get home and talk/act about as cold, ungodly, and mean as they can to the same man they made a commitment to love, honor, respect and support. It's very confusing and often turns men off from attending church with their wife, fiancé, or girlfriend for any other reason than to keep the peace. Everything you're helping your pastor build will not be passed on to you or your children, unless your pastor is also your husband NOT THE HUSBAND IN YOUR MIND, but your actual husband). Commitment to your HUSBAND or husband-to-be & his vision should be first. Church IS NOT God, and neither is your pastor! Your husband is to be Lord over you and the household, EVEN IF he be not a believer. Imagine if healthy marriages were totally encouraged in churches where the women far outweighed the men? If this was taught, most churches would instantly double in size because men could come to church knowing that the pastor was teaching the woman and man their proper roles to be successful in the first ministry, marriage. Plus, the single men would be more inclined to marry because they would see the benefits of it. www.ArmaniValentino.com --- be sure to check out my book #THISISWHYIWONTMARRYU
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"Impatience will rob you of everything that patience will give you!"
Business is Warfare, and one of the most important keys to business is PATIENCE! If you don't have patience, business will not be friendly to you. You will get frustrated, lose clients, and ultimately lose money. People want to do business with individuals who will be patient with them, help solve their problems, and/or deliver products/service according to plan. However, this is not always the case. As a matter of fact, in life, things do not always go according to plan. When you are not able to deliver or something isn't delivered on time, try not to get too frustrated. It will throw you off your game! This is where and why PATIENCE comes in. The older I've become and more experienced I've become, I understand why the old folks used to say, "Patience is a Virtue!" Because without PATIENCE, none of us can ever be successful in life or in business! Until next time... #staypositive #keepthefaith #claimtheincrease #seeyouatthetop Be sure to get your copy of Business Is Warfare: The Mental Game - How to Survive the First 5 Years of Business If you don't have the discipline it takes to run a business, develop the discipline or GET A JOB!
Do the work, and do it the BEST you can. Do it in and with the "Spirit of Excellence" and I promise you...the money will find you! You won't even have to go looking for the money or go chasing it. You will have people trying to search you out for your services.
Most small business owners are often concerned with GETTING THE MONEY! And while the money is important, it is not nearly as important as creating a good name for finishing the projects and delivering according to what you said you would do. ALL small business owners, myself included, at some point have been a little over zealous and made rookie mistakes (usually happen because you have no mentor/coach) that caused them to "OVER PROMISE & UNDER DELIVER." Too many of these rookie mistakes will totally ruin your name and your business. You can only TALK about what you're going to do for so long before you end up having to PRODUCE some results for a client(s) or customer(s). Otherwise, your credibility goes out the window. You have to DEVELOP your name as a trusted and reliable source. And well... this takes some time and some planning before your product(s) or service(s) being sought after begins to happen. However, as long as you focus on serving and servicing a client(s) and/or a customer(s) in the BEST possible manner in which you can, you will be amazed at the kind of calls, emails, and inquiries that you will receive. In conclusion, DO THE WORK and DO THE BEST YOU CAN EACH TIME! If you have not ordered your copy of #BusinessIsWarfare CD or digital download set, and you are not making the kind of money you would like to make in business, I strongly encourage you to click the picture below. Small Business Advice of the Day: STOP GUESSING! It is okay if you don't know. However, if you're trying to be profitable in business, GUESSING IS NOT THE WAY! Every single time I have lost money in business or had a business to FAIL, it was because I was guessing. The same goes for every other client I know as well. Many small business owners strategy for success is to GUESS. That's why 80-90% are not successful, at all! You can't guess your way to business success. Guessing is NOT a viable business plan. When you don't know, you either pay someone to tell/show you, or you figure it out! Again, most never pay nor do they figure it out! I learned that the time it takes to figure something out could be used making more money, by just paying someone who knows whatever it is I am trying to figure out. If you're trying to have a profitable business, you have to have a strategic marketing plan. There's a Universal law that states, "Like CAUSES produce like EFFECTS!" What this means is, if you make 1 dollar doing something, if you do the same thing a certain number of times, you should be able to to produce a dollar, all things being equal. Otherwise, you would have to be a good guesser to guess upon a viable INCOME over and over again. And, honestly, every successful business owner I know would not credit "guessing" as part of their business strategy. This is the purpose of research and development in many major corporations. They would rather use hundreds and thousands of dollars on Research and Development as opposed to losing millions of dollars launching a product or service that public doesn't want. This is also the purpose of training, accounting departments, and almost every other department in a major corporation. They are all part of the SUCCESS PLAN. Startups and small businesses don't go from one or two person operations to large 400-500 person corporations solely because they had money or investors. The most successful companies have GOALS, OBJECTIVES, and proven STRATEGIES to reach these goals and objectives. Once they know what works, they implement these strategies over and over again! Many times it's not what you know, it's the one or two things that YOU DON'T KNOW that causes success and/or failure of your small business. Do you have a professionally written marketing plan? Do you have a professionally written business plan? Do you have an exit strategy? Do you have a service marketing plan? Until next time... #staypositive #keepthefaith #claimtheincrease #seeyouathetop Fill out the form below if you would like to increase your income. Afterwards, feel to reach out to me for a small business strategy & marketing SUCCESS session. 972-781-8404 February 15, 2016 Dallas, TX ---As the new week began on President’s Day 2016, many individuals didn’t have to go to work on today, and children didn’t have to go to school. Therefore, many spouses, fiancées, and significant others either got it right on this past Valentine’s Day or they totally missed it, again. Depending on how well the Lover’s weekend went for them, their Monday was probably in direct correlation to their weekend. They were either basking in joy or stressing about the discontent of their lover. Either way, they had their opportunity to at least get it right. Then, there’s another group of individuals; no matter how much they wanted to get it right and maybe even impress the object of their affection they had no one with whom they could enjoy Valentine's 2016. They were willing to buy the flowers, cards, candy, dinner, movie, engagement ring, or sit at home and #netflixcandchill; but they had no one with whom they could give or receive love this Valentine’s 2016. With all the dating options today, or seemingly abundant choices to choose from when it comes to finding love, many individuals still struggle to attract a suitable date for Valentine's Day, every year. I realized this when I woke up this morning and signed into my social media accounts. #Singleandlovingit #teamsingle #treatingmyself #stillsingle #nodate And many other hashtags centered around the lack of love or someone with whom to share Valentine's Day. On one hand, there were individuals who were excited about Valentine’s Day festivities; and just as many who were kind of sour or trying to act as if they weren’t so sad about not having someone with whom they could share Valentine’s Day weekend. The 5 people who more than likely have the Valentine’s Blues worst than you… 1.) The Man, who bought the ring for the woman of his dreams, planned everything out, only to be told, “No!” 2.) The Lady, who had finally let her walls down enough to go on a date with a man, went and got her hair done, bought a nice dress, shoes, etc., maybe even paid for a babysitter, only to end up being stood up by this guy who had no real intentions with her in the first place. 3.) The child or young person who got their heart broken over the weekend for the first time. 4.) The person spending their first Valentine’s alone without their lover who may have passed within the last 12 months. 5.) The person who doesn’t believe in love, at all. And therefore, is negative about any and everyone else enjoying and/or pursuing love. I am all about individuals loving one another and being in love. Therefore, I encourage you to be LOVE’S EXPRESSION, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day. This within itself will help you to be able to appreciate whatever you receive and look forward to giving love, daily. I Otherwise, every year, you’ll end up having the After Valentine’s Day Blues. Until next time… ©2016. Armani Valentino. All rights reserved. My TOP Books on Relationships:
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So, late last night, after having my weekly author call, the following happened:
Well, I had just gotten off of a phone call with a male and female friend of mine. The conversation was about being "Thirsty" or not. He's married. She is single, and I am as well. Well, it was an interesting convo. When we got off the phone, I logged in to Facebook, and the first post I saw was the one pictured: "Why do men think an attractive lady has a mate or men lined up? Do you guys think that's another reason why so many people are single? I think so many people are single because of this new word, THIRSTY! For some reason, you're not supposed to want or express genuine interest in desiring to have a happy and fulfilling relationship. You can desire success, money, better health, new house, car, better job, child support, seeing your kids, a break from your job, and tell everybody to pray for you about all of that. Butttttttttttt, if you say, I am really looking for a good husband/wife in the near future and praying God sends me a good mate, YOU'RE THIRSTY! And are told, oh just let it happen. Everything else, we're told to pursue except a relationship. We're supposed to let that happen. Lol...really? Ok.... I would say that that's been the biggest shift in relationships I've seen over the last 8 years of working in the relationship industry. The other thing, I've seen is this idea that people are as replaceable as a roll of toilet paper or underwear and therfore have no REAL value to each other in a relationship; men/women. This leads to a lack of compassion and a lack of passion in our interactions, quest, and/or wait for true connection and love. So, because women are the bearers of love and aren't loving men for being men, AND the men are carriers of protection and are not protecting the women, there's no TRUST. Is very hard to LOVE without TRUST. In general, Men marry women they can TRUST, and not just women they can trust, but women with whom they can trust with their heart. On the other hand, women marry men who make them feel SECURE, and depending on the woman the definition of SECURE is different. So, again, somebody has to make a move, and in turn, something has to be reciprocated that the move being made is okay, appreciated, and desired. Otherwise, we'll see less and less men and/or women making/responding accordingly to any moves! AND therefore, more and more SINGLE, yet attractive women and men. Everybody has been told to WAIT. If you don't, YOU'RE THIRSTY. Don't call her. Don't text him. Don't respond back yet. Etc. ,etc. ,etc. How silly does all this sound? Why let folks know that I'm single, available, ready for a healthy loving relationship, not a whore/jiggalo, and don't have all these options lined up contrary to some folks idea of me? Why? Because anything else would be uncivilized, and is keeping many beautiful women and good men single, who actually desire the same thing, but are more concerned about looking THIRSTY! ### By Armani Valentino (C)2015. ArmaniValentino.com All books are available on this site and for private relationship coaching, please use the contact form. Small Business & Relationship Advice of the Day: People can only waste YOUR time if YOU let them. Lately, I've been focusing on making sure the one thing I can't get back is not wasted on things I don't desire. I can get more money, food, clothing, shelter, businesses, etc. But the one thing that is most valuable in life is time. There are 23 hours 56 minutes and 46 seconds in a day, or approximately 24 hours. What you choose to do with them is up to you.
1. CONTROL your time. Don't let time control you. A guy told me years ago, "You'll either master time, or time will matter you!" 2. BECOME your own Prophet! Individuals from religious and spiritual communities, are often waiting on someone to tell them HOW THEIR LIFE IS GOING TO TURN OUT! The more control you have over your time, the decisions you deliberately choose to make, the habitual thought you think, and those with whom you associate yourself and invest YOUR time, it will allow you to more easily determine your destination. 3.MAXIMIZE your day through proper planning. PLAN your WORK, and WORK YOUR PLAN. Keep your daily plan present, so when others try to impede upon your plan with their own plan, you'll be able to stay on track. Yet, be easy when things work out differently. 4. UNDERSTAND that money can save you time and buy you someone else's time. And in business, being able to rent or lease someone's time is VERY VALUABLE if you're trying to grow your business. People often say they can't afford to hire someone or pay for services so they would rather do them in instead of paying for it to be done. I used to be like this for a long time. However, the more your business grows, YOU WILL BEGIN TO MAKE MISTAKES because you have no time or energy to invest the proper time needed to produce top quality WORK. Therefore, learn to get better qualified people to do the needed tasks. 5. TAKE time to REST! The rest periods of life should be planned as well. That way your time with self, friends, spouse, and family, is not infringed upon. Doing this will allow you to be able to perform at peak levels, consistently. Probably the most important factor in growing beyond current levels. ### Follow me on FB, IG, Twitter, SnapChat, Google+ Facebook.com/askarmanivalentino IG @armanivalentino1 Twitter @armanivalentino SnapChat @armanivalentino Google+ @ArmaniValentino For private consultations give me a call or email me. 972-781-8404 "How you gon' win, when you ain't right within? Come again...?" ~Lauryn Hill
A good friend called me early this morning, and I mean early! She spoke to me about a lot of things that were on her mind. I wanted to give myself and everyone the advice I gave her and what she also gained from her own experience: 1.) Know what you're getting yourself into BEFORE getting involved. Often, the blind are being led by the blind, and when this happens both parties are bound to fall in the ditch. 2.) Make sure the person(s) you're dealing with made some failures in the past, and learned from them. Why? Failure is a good teacher. Failure is also great at making folks humble. The feeling of failure will either make you better and build your character, or it will make your character and attitude even worse. 3.) Deal with HONEST individuals and companies. Liars, schemers, and negative manipulators do not permanently win in any area of life. When you align yourself with individuals who are like this, you'll end up reaping the consequences of the lies they tell. 4.) Appreciate each experience in life. Life is nothing but a series of experiences. The level of happiness and joy each of us possesses is based on our outlook of these experiences. 5.) Understand your strengths and your weaknesses. Experiences in life and time with yourself help you get know both. The same goes for those in which you involve yourself. They are not strong on every area, and neither are you. 6.) No matter what, try to see the bright side of even a bad situation! Focusing on the negative will only bring you more negative. I hope these things helped you add much as they helped me. Continue to move forward in hope, and do your best to be your best everyday! #staypositive #dosomething #productive #keepthefaith #FOCUS #dontquit #claimtheincrease #seeyouatthetop #iallowmygood #iEmbraceTheUnknown |
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